Tagged: #newbie #help
This topic has 249 replies, 67 voices, and was last updated 7 years, 1 month ago by Shaun.
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April 12, 2017 at 4:09 pm #7826
Kimberly Stewart
Participant“Your bff, just a survey away…”
“We help people with the single most important thing in the world: Finding your own Confidant. At a success rate of 99.7% IConfidant is working nonstop to make this a happier and more united world. Sign up today.”
Sure thing, sounds like a great idea. Sign me up.
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April 12, 2017 at 4:09 pm #7821
M.
ParticipantHere’s the website… Megan helped me figure it out.
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April 12, 2017 at 4:12 pm #7822
Brad Ruwe
Participant“I find people to be needlessly complex and troublesome to deal with. Is there a companion for me?
No, but there are cats. Of which, there are always several in need of of adoption and friendly care. ;)”FUCKING DYING. Who was it that responded to the “friend” question with a cat?
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April 12, 2017 at 4:13 pm #7825
Lukas L
ParticipantLol @nothenrygale I was dying as well. @coryphella talks about cats often
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April 12, 2017 at 4:17 pm #7827
M.
ParticipantI think we need to combine threads I had posted this in Morgan’s thread just not the FB page. @thegilded
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April 12, 2017 at 4:17 pm #7828
Anonymous
InactiveWho needs humans when you have cats?
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April 12, 2017 at 4:19 pm #7830
Addison
ParticipantAnyone else think this sounds like a modern-day SmarterChild?
Also – reverse image search on the Stacy Erikson headshot doesn’t turn anything up, and there’s no Stacy Erikson on linkedin.. careful y’all.
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April 12, 2017 at 4:24 pm #7840
Lauren Bello
ModeratorI emailed Stacey and received a reply within minutes. We’re scheduling a phone call now. She’s seriously on top of it.
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April 12, 2017 at 4:24 pm #7841
Sean
ModeratorI’ve signed up. Just hope I’m worthy of a
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April 12, 2017 at 4:25 pm #7843
Anonymous
InactiveI fully expect to be replaced by a robot for @nothenrygale’s needs.
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April 12, 2017 at 4:28 pm #7845
Andrew Kasch
ParticipantI just received a phone call from Stacey.
She asked me if I was in love. And asked me how Annette (my wife) and I were doing?
She asked me if something was holding back from something I wanted and what that was. I told her honestly: Happiness.
She then told me about iConfidant and that they would be studying me to determine a “match” for me….a friend, a lover, etc. “In order to do this, we have to start following you around. Is that OK?”
I’m no stranger to being followed around thanks to the OOA, so I replied with a very enthusiastic “YES!”
She said she hoped they could give me a good time…
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April 12, 2017 at 4:28 pm #7846
Brad Ruwe
ParticipantSo obvious question is how much connection is there between iConfidant and The System. Obviously it appears The System is how they collect the data for these confidants, but are they the same organization? Does Stacey know about the shadiness we’ve been seeing from Sarah? Would Stacey still work with The System if she knew how they collected the data?
SO MANY QUESTIONS.
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April 12, 2017 at 4:28 pm #7847
Kimberly Stewart
ParticipantI am 100% on board with having my very own personally manufactured and contrived BFF. Can never have enough true and loyal friends who really, REALLY understand you, right? With any luck they provide free overnight shipping. I can not wait!
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April 12, 2017 at 4:29 pm #7848
Sean
Moderator@kasch – Hey! Maybe they’ll get some more use out of… The Blue Car, was it? Or was it red…?
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April 12, 2017 at 4:34 pm #7850
Andrew Kasch
Participant@thegilded It was a blue car! Now my eyes will be peeled everywhere…
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April 12, 2017 at 4:32 pm #7849
Jackie
ParticipantSigned up and excited!
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April 12, 2017 at 4:35 pm #7851
Meghan Mayhem
ParticipantEmailed and interested to see if they can do what okcupid, match, tinder, and hanging out in alleyways has failed to do.
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April 12, 2017 at 7:06 pm #7941
Lawrence Meyers
ParticipantEmailed and interested to see if they can do what okcupid, match, tinder, and hanging out in alleyways has failed to do.
I don’t know how we didn’t run into each other in some of these dark alleyways.
But never mind…you know that I am here for you. Always.
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April 12, 2017 at 4:36 pm #7852
Kevin Flint
Participant“Your new best friend is just a survey away.” Talk about managing expectations. How awesome would that be though…
Makes one question what a best friend is: One who always props you up? Or one who constantly questions and challenges you? One who keeps you out of jail or one who goes to jail with you?
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April 12, 2017 at 4:37 pm #7853
Brad Ruwe
ParticipantI don’t know about you guys, but I could use a friend to hold me back when I go email crazy / think a dick logo animation is a good idea.
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April 12, 2017 at 4:39 pm #7854
Anonymous
Inactive@nothenrygale a dick logo animation is always a good idea.
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April 12, 2017 at 4:42 pm #7855
Cristen
Participant@meghanmayhem 11/10 would hang out in alleyway with.
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April 12, 2017 at 4:44 pm #7856
Taylor Winters
ParticipantI emailed Stacey and just retrieved a response. She scheduled a call with me tomorrow at 1 pm. This is so exciting!
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April 12, 2017 at 5:07 pm #7878
Lauren Bello
Moderator@taysavestheday – interesting, I was also told I would be called at 1pm tomorrow.
Were we all told the same time?
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April 12, 2017 at 4:45 pm #7857
Addison
ParticipantAlso just received a response, hopping on with Stacy tomorrow.
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April 12, 2017 at 4:45 pm #7858
Brad Ruwe
ParticipantSo while they’re reaching out to some of us for questions, I’m curious if some of us already have “confidants” working their way into our lives. For some who went through the full Tension run, obviously enough data would have been collected by this point that additional questioning may not be needed. Anyone make any new friends recently that just seem a little… TOO perfect?
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April 12, 2017 at 4:50 pm #7861
Anonymous
Inactive@nothenrygale Well @kasch and I have always been perfect for each other.
I’d laugh my ass off if we matched up.
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April 12, 2017 at 4:46 pm #7859
Sean
ModeratorGot a response, too. Looks like I’ll be speaking with them tomorrow to set up my future BFF.
That’s simultaneously terrifying and exciting.
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April 12, 2017 at 4:47 pm #7860
Anonymous
InactiveOh hey, have some (empty) shadow html code…
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April 12, 2017 at 4:53 pm #7864
Anonymous
InactiveI sent an email and attempted vulnerability. I don’t do vulnerability well.
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April 12, 2017 at 4:53 pm #7865
Cristen
Participant@nothenrygale uhm no I made like twenty.
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April 12, 2017 at 4:59 pm #7870
Candace
ParticipantOmg now THIS is ducking exciting!! ?? question…how did you guys hear about this site? What did I miss? I was reading and came back and all of a sudden there’s a new site for robot friends (the movie HER comes to mind and that I am SO INTRIGUED!)
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April 12, 2017 at 5:00 pm #7871
JakeO
Participantthis reminds me of the Black Mirror Christmas special. Hopefully our perfect confidant doesn’t replace us doppelgänger style and leave us trapped on a hard drive somewhere.
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April 12, 2017 at 5:04 pm #7872
Candace
ParticipantUm…from the iconfidant fb page
“I was sceptical at first but it works!! It really does. I found my partner in crime. IConfidant truly helped me live a better, happier and more social life.” – Cecilia S.
@thebuz you told me earlier that I sound like I’m lusting for a partner in crime…SUS…I’ve got my eye on you ?
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April 12, 2017 at 5:05 pm #7873
Megan
Participantok…posting from tech now. Surreptitiously. 🙂
I got the call as I was on my way out the door. Also from Stacy. She asked me if I was in love, and I said yes, and she said “Travis is a lucky guy.” I was sitting next to him so I said “well I don’t know, Travis do you think you’re a lucky guy?” (this is part of an ongoing OTHER conversation he & I are having). He says yes. And basically from there it was mostly the same stuff but she did say that the way that it worked was that they would be watching me in order to find me the perfect companion. I don’t know if the other calls got that?
The cat thing…Michelle read that part to me while I was driving. I turned the same shade of purple as my car. Whatever, I’m 40 and I’m embracing my identity.
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April 12, 2017 at 5:05 pm #7874
Miki M
ParticipantOh, thank fuck. I’ve been looking to replace @meghanmayhem for a while now.
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April 12, 2017 at 5:06 pm #7875
Anonymous
InactiveDidn’t take but 10 minutes for that shadow-root code to disappear. I see you.
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April 12, 2017 at 5:06 pm #7876
Anonymous
Inactive@mikim Well… if you’re the new me, then I can be the new @meghanmayhem.
I’ll have to pick up drinking again.
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April 12, 2017 at 5:07 pm #7877
JakeO
Participant@coryphella same call. They said they would be watching me as well
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April 12, 2017 at 5:09 pm #7879
Meghan Mayhem
Participant@mikim @kipsie
As you are both painfully aware, anyone attempting to be my perfect match better have access to a couple spare livers.-
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April 12, 2017 at 5:09 pm #7880
Jackie
Participantwhat if this is how Sarah/Noah met? Or even Otis and his mystery woman?
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April 12, 2017 at 5:10 pm #7882
Anonymous
InactivePersonalized technology. Sounds like a distraction to the ever present. Put your phones in the drawer, here’s a BFF.
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April 12, 2017 at 5:11 pm #7884
Miki M
Participant@kipsie How’s your liver? I suggest having some LFTs done before embarking on your new life as @meghanmayhem. Just to get a baseline of how much being her ruins your ability to sustain your ongoing viability.
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April 12, 2017 at 5:13 pm #7885
Anonymous
Inactive@pandace88 Perhaps I’m just good at guessing which way the wind is blowing!
Or I’m just a plant like always. ?
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April 12, 2017 at 5:17 pm #7886
Maranda
ParticipantI wonder if they have anything to offer for someone like me who isn’t at all interested in a relationship? First, The System and their lust for power. Now iconfidant and their lust for companionship/love. I wonder what’s next?
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April 12, 2017 at 5:20 pm #7887
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April 12, 2017 at 5:25 pm #7888
Brad Ruwe
ParticipantAlright gang, not to rain on our “new friend” parade, but been thinking about the possibilities of this given some things we already know.
We know we’re going to have our hearts broken. This is a recurring theme in early interviews regarding this experience. We also know that The System seems to have a way to control people into their ideal image of a person. Case in point, Noah.
So we all have our calls with Stacey and we get our new best friends / lovers. iConfidant winds up being exceptionally good at what they do, and we all hit it off with our confidants. We have real, strong connections with them. Not just in a game sense, but we come to really care for these people.
Then things start going a little haywire. Little glitches, things not lining up, our confidant starts acting differently.
What if our confidants are other humans, being controlled to act like our ideal person? We find out they had another life before they became our confidant. Then we’re left with a very, very tough choice. Do we give up the person we’ve grown so close to, so that this stranger can live their own life? Or do we let them continue to be controlled in order to keep our partner, while living with the guilt that inside is a person being forced against their will to live this lie?
Fuck guys, I really hope I’m wrong on this.
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April 12, 2017 at 5:27 pm #7889
Anonymous
InactiveOooh! Mail order plants!
I can’t wait to deprogram mine.
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April 12, 2017 at 5:33 pm #7890
Anonymous
InactiveJust got an email back from Stacey. Wants to call me tomorrow but didn’t give a specific time. She seems very pleasant.
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April 12, 2017 at 5:35 pm #7891
Michael Rizzo
Participantw o w This is great! I’d love to have a new companion because clearly my BFF is already moved on and looking
(I see you @electrichippo smfh).I sent in an email and hopefully will get a response, I’d love to meet a new friend!
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April 12, 2017 at 5:38 pm #7892
Maranda
ParticipantI just emailed asking if their service is right for me. Will update if I get a reply!
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April 12, 2017 at 5:41 pm #7893
Anonymous
InactiveApparently I got a phonecall from an unidentified number while my phone decoded to update. I did get an email from Stacey though.
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April 12, 2017 at 5:41 pm #7894
Lauren Bello
Moderator@nothenrygale – Interesting. At this stage, we don’t know if our Confidants will be friends within the Lust experience, people we’ve never met, employees being paid to simulate friendship, AI cleverbots, etc. At least, we have our suspicions, but I’m not sure what the service intends for us to believe. Hopefully more will come to light soon.
I had concerns that we might be betrayed by our iConfidant, especially given the website’s emphasis on how this won’t work unless you completely trust and confide in your match. “The important thing is that your iConfidant must have your complete trust and honesty in order to work as effectively as possible.” My fear was that we’d ultimately share confidential information with our iConfidant, who would then betray us, or get hacked. But you have a point, it will be interesting if we are the ones faced with the choice whether or not to betray. What sorts of confidences could iConfidants share with us? What could ever motivate us to share that information?
(Not to get ahead of myself…who knows if Stacey will accept me into the Beta at all.)
(But Stacey, if you ever read this…I’m very good with secrets. My hypothetical iConfidant could place complete trust in me. You’ll see.)
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April 12, 2017 at 5:48 pm #7895
Twan Intarathuch
ParticipantSigned up….but boy do I have a bad feeling about this,
Oh well. You play the game or you don’t.
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April 12, 2017 at 5:55 pm #7896
Mustafa Said
ParticipantWelp, signed up. Let’s see where this rabbit hole leads.
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April 12, 2017 at 5:58 pm #7897
Candace
Participant@nothenrygale ooh your theory gave me a very Get Out vibe and that movie was terrifying!! A whole new kind of creepy..
@daela being betrayed was exactly what I thought too when I read all the “share everything” stuff. If something sounds too good to be true, it probably is! But I don’t care..I want a perfect playmate ? I’ll take my chances!! *waiting for Stacey to reply* -
April 12, 2017 at 5:59 pm #7898
Cristen
ParticipantPer Stacey’s response email asking if we can do a call tomorrow it does appear like she’s setting up conference calls between multiple participants. Just to add a wrinkle. ?
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April 13, 2017 at 12:28 am #8056
SummoningDark
Participant@wanda102 I’d take a conference call with you any day. 😉
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April 12, 2017 at 6:05 pm #7899
Anonymous
InactiveHow does one sign up?
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April 12, 2017 at 6:15 pm #7902
Sage
ParticipantThis sounds like a dream come true! Who wouldn’t want a companion who truly gets them?! Also waiting for Stacy to reply…hope they aren’t full.
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April 12, 2017 at 6:15 pm #7903
Kevin
ParticipantSent in an email to sign up but haven’t heard anything back yet.
This looks like an excellent way to collect a lot of information and data as people “share and share away.” Especially if people think they’re doing it in a completely confidential way.
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April 12, 2017 at 6:26 pm #7910
Maranda
ParticipantGot a reply from Stacey:
“First off, thank you so much for reaching out to iConfidant and expressing interest in our service. Currently we are in Beta, and short staffed. We encourage to follow up on Facebook, and continue to check the official website for updates. We look forward to helping you find your missing piece.
Respectfully,
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April 12, 2017 at 6:28 pm #7911
Tom Kircher
ParticipantJust sent my email! Keeping my fingers crossed!
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April 12, 2017 at 6:28 pm #7912
Candace
ParticipantI got all excited that she replied but she didn’t set up a call for me so I’m taking it that maybe I didn’t reply in time for the beta test and it’s all full ? I’ll keep checking for updates like she said…
First off, thank you so much for reaching out to iConfidant and expressing interest in our service.
Currently we are in Beta, and short staffed. We encourage to follow up on Facebook, and continue to check the official website for updates.
We look forward to helping you find your missing piece.
Respectfully,
Stacey Erikson
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April 12, 2017 at 6:29 pm #7913
Mustafa Said
ParticipantGot the same message as @izryn. Guessing that message is more of a copy/paste job at this point.
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April 12, 2017 at 6:30 pm #7914
Miki M
Participant@pandace88 I just got the same email. Womp, fucking womp.
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April 12, 2017 at 6:30 pm #7915
Kevin
Participant@izryn @pandace88 I just got the same response from Stacey.
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April 12, 2017 at 6:32 pm #7917
Megan
ParticipantI have to admit, I’m curious to see where this is going. This can’t be as simple as a dating/matchmaking thing.
Stacey’s first question to me was “are you in love?” Given that the next thing she said was “Travis must be a lucky guy,” she knew I was married, so is she questioning my marriage? Is this going to be an attempt to “destroy my heart” that involves Travis?
@kingkill33 – Michelle mentioned to me on the phone that Stacey said something to you about your new baby being a “burden?” That, combined with what I’m positive she knows happened to Travis recently…makes me think that absolutely nothing is sacred or off-limits here. So everyone be warned, this might get very ugly.-
April 12, 2017 at 7:11 pm #7942
Lawrence Meyers
Participant@coryphella I missed the references to Travis and the baby. Can you link or repost?
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April 12, 2017 at 6:33 pm #7919
Anonymous
InactiveI got the same message. So, moving into my place (same as given by Noah/Sarah). I get the message. Sit back, watch the show be grateful for that.
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April 12, 2017 at 6:52 pm #7929
Sage
Participant@ziegenbart, oh man. I know how you feel, after putting a lot of time into this…but I hope some of us aren’t going to have to just “sit back and watch the show”. I hope…
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April 12, 2017 at 6:33 pm #7920
Chris
ParticipantSame reply as @izryn and @mumumusings. I will not be deterred! I feel like after whatever happens tomorrow with @lilmsfancpants, I may really need a new confidant.
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April 12, 2017 at 6:36 pm #7921
Tom Kircher
ParticipantAdd me to the list of people who got the copy/paste “check the website and facebook” email, but I’m staying hopeful. It’s certainly more response than I got from Noah and The System at least…
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April 12, 2017 at 6:37 pm #7922
Twan Intarathuch
ParticipantSame polite “rejection” reply. Oh well.
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April 12, 2017 at 6:39 pm #7923
Candace
Participant? friend you are so close and yet so far away…? *pets cat for comfort*
Dear Stacey/iconfidant:
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April 12, 2017 at 6:44 pm #7924
Sage
ParticipantAlso rejected. Gosh, you really have to be super quick to the draw on these things…
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April 12, 2017 at 6:44 pm #7925
Hannah Schenck
ParticipantJust signed up! I am as eager to wander down the rabbit hole as ever!
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April 12, 2017 at 6:48 pm #7927
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April 12, 2017 at 6:54 pm #7931
Anonymous
InactiveMy first reply from Stacey seems to be different from both the acceptances and rejections. Not expecting another response tonight (especially since I am not sure whether or not the phone call with the bad voicemail was from her or not). I’ll post on here to see if anyone else got a similar response.
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April 12, 2017 at 6:54 pm #7932
Hannah Schenck
Participant@nothenrygale If your theory of broken hearts and confidants reigns true, it will be a gut wrenching twist to this community. Needless to say, I think you are onto something that could potentially play out and be devastating. I know I would not recover so well, as I have dealt with a lot of heartbreak and disappointment. I’m sure I’m not the only one in this group either lol I don’t want to believe that this could turn true, but I am glad that you brought it to light. An ugly scenario that no one wants to think of happening, could very well be the outcome!
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April 12, 2017 at 6:58 pm #7933
Brad Ruwe
Participant@shankfx22 Oh absolutely. I’ve got a fair share of heartbreak stories, including a relationship with a girl that seemed to be perfect… only to find out I was the “other guy” and she had another boyfriend THE ENTIRE TIME.
Yeah, usually I’m actually excited when I’m wrong about stuff, cause it means I learned something new.
Really hoping I’m wrong about this.
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April 12, 2017 at 6:59 pm #7934
Sage
ParticipantOkay, Stacy is nice. I told her I was disappointed and wanted a real companion and she told me to keep my chin up!
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April 12, 2017 at 6:59 pm #7935
Anonymous
InactiveActually, I realized I can’t upload, so I will type verbatim what was written:
Stacey: Sarah, I understand.
Believe me when I tell you I understand.
Don’t worry about making a commitment. Think about it. Follow us. Then in time, when you are ready, IF/ you are ready email me again.
I’m not going anywhere!
All the best,
~SE
I had titled the original email “The Prospect of Having a BFF Scares the Living Snot Out of Me”. Just in case anyone is wondering why I may not be ready.
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April 12, 2017 at 7:06 pm #7939
thehazelverse
ParticipantAll of this is intriguing… BUT I feel like it’s a little too obvious.
We’ve constantly been told that things WON’T be as they seem, things will become obfuscated, and we’ll literally be in twisted version of wonderland (paraphrasing).
I think we’re being set up to be confused.
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April 12, 2017 at 7:06 pm #7940
Hannah Schenck
Participant@nothenrygale My stories range from best friend betrayal, to being in love and being taken advantage of in some of the worst ways. And yet, I am still willing to be vulnerable enough to a certain extent, knowing that this all could happen again. The unknown is scary but also exciting, which is the one thing I took away from Tension the most.
I have to wonder, is iConfidant another way of tricking us into a trap? Playing into another aspect of what we long for and desire the most, only to use it against us and really make us painfully raw.
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April 12, 2017 at 7:22 pm #7943
Anonymous
InactiveEmailed about 20 minutes ago and nothing. Either I missed out, I’m doing something wrong, or they just don’t like my email.
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April 12, 2017 at 7:26 pm #7944
Anonymous
Inactive@jared It took an hour before I got a response. A lot of people are flooding it. Give it time.
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April 12, 2017 at 7:28 pm #7945
Anonymous
InactiveYeah that’s what I figured, but it’s pretty common for me to get no response from immersive theater things. Hopefully I’m wrong this time.
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April 12, 2017 at 7:32 pm #7946
Jeremy
ParticipantGlad I came on here on a homework break. Emailed and waiting.
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April 12, 2017 at 7:33 pm #7947
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April 12, 2017 at 7:35 pm #7949
Megan
Participant@larry – in my call it was just exactly what I said – when I answered, the first thing she asked was “are you in love?” I said yes, and then she said “Travis must be a lucky guy.” She knows I’m married, but asked if I was in love anyway.
Beyond that…Travis had a heart attack on Thanksgiving, and that’s fairly public knowledge & anyone who is “watching” me will find that and all the crap that came with it. I am certainly not a delicate flower and neither is my marriage, but it is telling if they’re going to question that commitment now.
The baby – I may have spoken out of turn, that was told to me over the phone from @kingkill33’s phone call, so if I have that wrong Mike, I’m sorry.
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April 12, 2017 at 7:42 pm #7951
Brad Ruwe
Participant@lukasrl I’m counting on you to find out just how tied in with The System they are!
Question to the general floor, was anyone told they’d get a phone call tomorrow, but without a specific time? My response was that she’d like to have a call tomorrow and asked for my phone number. No time or anything, just “afternoon”.
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April 12, 2017 at 7:43 pm #7952
Hannah Schenck
Participant@lukasrl Looks like you’ve got yourself some potential temptation 😉 WATCH OUT!
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April 12, 2017 at 7:46 pm #7953
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April 12, 2017 at 7:51 pm #7954
Anonymous
Inactive@nothenrygale Yes. Call tomorrow but no time.
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April 12, 2017 at 7:52 pm #7955
Jeremy
ParticipantSeems like The System does the dirty work (brainwashing, copying, cloning) and sells the product to iConfidant.
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April 12, 2017 at 7:52 pm #7956
Anonymous
InactiveGot the same, generic, rejection response.
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April 12, 2017 at 7:55 pm #7957
KINGKILL33
ParticipantYou’re not wrong @coryphella, Stacey did mention my newborn and her being a burden. I wonder why she would’ve said that, because everyone that knows my baby, knows that she is an absolute angel. I don’t put it past them to be checking all of our social media accounts to get as much information possible on us all. Data gathering, I wonder where we’ve seen that before lol.
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April 12, 2017 at 7:59 pm #7958
Lawrence Meyers
Participant@kingkill33 @coryphella The two biggest things/commitments people can have: marriage and children.
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April 12, 2017 at 8:01 pm #7959
Anonymous
InactiveSo, is there a chance that the rejected,(twice, for some of us) may be the final chosen that will save the helmet club?
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April 12, 2017 at 8:09 pm #7960
Anonymous
InactiveMarriage and children… hmmm. No. I like spending on fun things for myself. Spare me the fuck trophies. Give me the adventures.
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April 12, 2017 at 8:19 pm #7961
Kevin Flint
ParticipantI am not applying.
Why? If I had to choose between the two I’d take The System. Not sure if they’re putting us in buckets or not (maybe more to come?) But the last thing I need is more friends. I’d rather kick some ass.
Now the problem is I haven’t been picked for The System. But spots will open up…
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April 12, 2017 at 8:20 pm #7962
Kyle Bown
ParticipantAlright gang, not to rain on our “new friend” parade, but been thinking about the possibilities of this given some things we already know.
We know we’re going to have our hearts broken. This is a recurring theme in early interviews regarding this experience. We also know that The System seems to have a way to control people into their ideal image of a person. Case in point, Noah.
So we all have our calls with Stacey and we get our new best friends / lovers. iConfidant winds up being exceptionally good at what they do, and we all hit it off with our confidants. We have real, strong connections with them. Not just in a game sense, but we come to really care for these people.
Then things start going a little haywire. Little glitches, things not lining up, our confidant starts acting differently.
What if our confidants are other humans, being controlled to act like our ideal person? We find out they had another life before they became our confidant. Then we’re left with a very, very tough choice. Do we give up the person we’ve grown so close to, so that this stranger can live their own life? Or do we let them continue to be controlled in order to keep our partner, while living with the guilt that inside is a person being forced against their will to live this lie?
Fuck guys, I really hope I’m wrong on this.
Can I option this for a movie?
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April 12, 2017 at 8:22 pm #7964
Brad Ruwe
Participant@bruinbown Only if I get to help on the actual creation of the film and not just the marketing for it #UnsatisfiedMovieAdvertiserProblems
Oh and only if we get that Darren Lynn Bousmann guy to direct it. I hear he’s done some cool things.
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April 12, 2017 at 8:25 pm #7967
Kyle Bown
Participant@nothenrygale I have no issue with that whatsoever.
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April 12, 2017 at 8:31 pm #7968
Anonymous
InactiveAnybody else still have no response??
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April 12, 2017 at 8:33 pm #7970
Anonymous
InactiveMy wife has a kitten. She would burn me and my children in a fire of poo and nightmares for one day of stroking that kitty. Don’t trust a woman with a kitty.
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April 12, 2017 at 8:36 pm #7971
Anonymous
Inactive@jared I haven’t received a response yet…then again I did only write to her about ten minutes ago hahahaha #notpatient #tooexcited
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April 12, 2017 at 8:39 pm #7973
Chloe
ParticipantJust sent my email in. Expecting the copy/paste response since it seems like they’re full, but who knows!
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April 12, 2017 at 8:41 pm #7974
Anonymous
InactiveI’m too impatient I guess… This is a common occurrence for me though. Always missing out on stuff.
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April 12, 2017 at 8:46 pm #7979
Andrew K
ParticipantJust sent my email!
Hello!
I’ve been looking for a true match and partner for a very long time. I’ve tried Tinder and other online sights but I hate the disconnection online dating sights creates.
And with my hectic work schedule I don’t get out to meet people as much as a 24 year old male should.
I’m hoping your program can help me with what I’m looking for. Someone that I can talk to, share with, laugh with and who has similar interests to me.
Thank you for your time and I look forward to hearing from you.
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April 12, 2017 at 8:46 pm #7981
Melissa
ParticipantAw man, bad timing today for me, I completely missed the train. I’ll still sign up though–interesting turn events, everyone!
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April 12, 2017 at 8:54 pm #7982
Anonymous
InactiveOkay sorry guys, I’m officially too impatient and need to learn how to stop and relax…
This is what i just got:
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April 12, 2017 at 8:57 pm #7984
Anonymous
Inactive@jared sounds like you got bumped up the list a bit! That’s great! I do feel for her over those 300 sum odd emails…that would drive me NUTS
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April 12, 2017 at 8:58 pm #7985
Anonymous
Inactive@jared no response from iConfidant for me.
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April 12, 2017 at 9:05 pm #7986
Brad Ruwe
ParticipantJust a reminder for everyone to be patient. As mentioned, they’ve gotten hundreds of emails today. Sorting through and responding to them takes TIME. Those who reached out right away got an instant response. Those who emailed later will take longer.
Patience everyone. It’s April. There’s plenty of time for us to have an interaction.
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April 12, 2017 at 9:06 pm #7987
Anonymous
InactiveI didn’t think I’d get one, so just keep waiting patiently… I have been too impatient most of my life, so I’m learning to relax more through this experience. Maybe the fact that i was vocal here about getting no response, caused Stacey to bump me up a little.
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April 12, 2017 at 9:09 pm #7988
Hannah Schenck
ParticipantI was also impatient and was reminded by a couple people to wait for my time to come lol sure enough…
Hannah, your email is a breath of fresh air.
Thank you for your honesty and willingness to share.
Let us find a time in the very near future to speak on the phone.
Would love to tell you more about us, and hear more about you.
Nite,
StaceyI replied with my schedule and my phone number… WE SHALL SEEEEE!!!
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April 12, 2017 at 9:16 pm #7989
Anonymous
InactiveI’m hoping they take the path of “not even a system created to find the perfect match could find love for you” for some of us. My heart would break.
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April 12, 2017 at 9:26 pm #7993
Sage
Participant@tyson, oh no, you would be the perfect match for iConfidant. Chin up, as Stacy said. 🙂
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April 12, 2017 at 9:32 pm #8001
Anonymous
Inactive@sfire8 Probably so. Not quite sure where this could be headed. I don’t know which thought is more heart breaking – in order to find a companion so to speak we must rely on something like iconfidant; Or, that something like iconfidant just wouldn’t work for some people. Unlike a lot of people, I guess the hope of a little heartache makes me feel more alive.
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April 12, 2017 at 9:39 pm #8007
Nicole Mae
ParticipantI can’t believe I am so late to this. That’s what I get for stepping out with a friend. Email sent!
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April 12, 2017 at 9:54 pm #8014
Melissa
Participanthttps://i.imgur.com/gallery/emWre.jpg
It’s a .Com, not to be Confused with the .Net site but it still made me chuckle.
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April 12, 2017 at 10:10 pm #8017
Kimberly Stewart
ParticipantStacey invited me to share a phone chat with her tomorrow afternoon. She’s amazingly charming and relatable. It’s almost as if she was designed to please.
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April 12, 2017 at 10:18 pm #8018
Gary Price
ParticipantNo reply yet. Time to get more active on the forums tbh.
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April 12, 2017 at 10:54 pm #8022
Anonymous
InactiveWill be speaking with Stacey tomorrow at 1:30pm. Excited.
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April 12, 2017 at 10:55 pm #8024
Russell
ParticipantI agree with the earlier comments that this is a perfect form of data gathering. Promise someone you can give them what society and media as a whole stress we SHOULD be looking for in this lifetime. (Maybe even if it is not what you really, really want deep down inside.) Make yourself vulnerable by revealing what you feel you lack in this world? That’s gold in the hands of someone wanting to manipulate.
However, I do find it very interesting that they use the word “companion.”
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April 12, 2017 at 11:00 pm #8025
Meghan Mayhem
ParticipantNow, now @russell. There’s nothing to be concerned about. Everyone wants a buddy! A companion is a friend and nothing bad can come of making new friends!
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April 12, 2017 at 11:03 pm #8026
Russell
ParticipantWell played, @meghanmayhem haha!
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April 12, 2017 at 11:22 pm #8028
Candace
ParticipantI’m just going to be honest and vulnerable for a second. Seeing everyone’s personalized emails from Stacey compared to my copy/paste reply makes me sad. I’m not even worth an actual human response?! Is this what rejection feels like?!
(Lol jk I know rejection, I used to be an actor! This feeling sucks ?)
*chin up guys* we don’t need anyone to validate our worth. Who needs robot friends anyway…not me…*kicks rocks*
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April 12, 2017 at 11:37 pm #8038
Sage
Participant@pandace88, yeah me too! I’m mean what is the criteria here?? I try to be active but not working so much. 🙁
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April 12, 2017 at 11:44 pm #8043
Andrew K
ParticipantJust got my response!
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Ah Andrew, your email made my heart smile!! I could not agree with you more. Tinder, Bumble, Raya, all these things are not what we are or aspire to be. We seek REAL connections. TRUE friendship. Which is exactly what we will help you find dear Andrew. Please do keep in touch and expect more info on how to register very soon.
Thank you
Stacey”
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April 12, 2017 at 11:47 pm #8046
Andrew K
ParticipantAlso, the OSDM is totally using this as a tactic to lure in those turned off by The System.
Think about it – its the total opposite:
They help you find someone (no taking or aggression required, ) the figure head is this seemingly very sweet woman, etc etc.
Its almost as if the two services were, dare I say, shadows of one another?
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April 13, 2017 at 12:07 am #8050
Anonymous
InactiveVery good point @anakindrew. I had a similar thought when I read through the website. I’ve never felt a connection to The System, Sarah, or Noah, but I like Stacey and hope to speak with her more and learn what I can about iConfidant. My email to her was pretty generic, so I hope I can open up a little more to her soon.
There are definitely alternate ways for Lust to collect data from us, and they are finding ways to connect with different personalities, which is very interesting.
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April 13, 2017 at 12:11 am #8053
Candace
ParticipantStacey is a fucking gem ??? she is so sweet. I don’t care if she’s a lie. She makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside! & I love this whole idea and do believe it could help people if used correctly *see attached email* (Also, judging by her response, we may all get a chance to register in the future. Let’s stay hopeful ?)
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April 13, 2017 at 12:11 am #8054
Lenize
ParticipantI’m going to send a mail, although I don’t think they’ll see me as active enough to get more than a copy/paste response, but heck, wouldn’t hurt to try.
I wish it just wasn’t so hard to be active with the time difference what it is. I go to bed around 2/3pm LA side, so unless something is happening online in the morning I usually only get to it when I wake up (which is between 11 and 12 pm LA time when most of you are off to bed), and by then everything is usually over already. That’s just life I guess, nothing I can do about it, just wish South Africa wasn’t so backwards that we don’t even have more than one or two normal theatre shows running at a time, never mind having anything immersive or even your standard haunted house over halloween, just nothing!!!
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April 13, 2017 at 12:22 am #8055
Maranda
Participant@pandace88 You got a great response! I also sent a reply to Stacey’s copy/paste response but it’s ok if she doesn’t have time to send one back. Hopefully we’ll all have a chance to find our perfect friends 🙂
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April 13, 2017 at 12:35 am #8057
Candace
Participant@anakindrew oh I totally agree The System/iconfidant Sarah/Stacey are shadows of each other. The OSDM knows what they’re doing. They’re not stupid. They will play us all. We are mere moths to a flame.
I suspect this will all go up in flames and yet I am happy and this momentary bliss makes it all worthwhile for me. I feel excited and that is what I live for ?
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April 13, 2017 at 4:26 am #8065
Chloe
ParticipantGot mine back
“Hi Chloe,
Ah don’t we all want to just share everything with someone who cares and where it’s safe? You will be able to soon!!
Stacey”
This is what I sent
“Hi Stacey,
I would love a new confidant to share everything with. Let me know if I can join your membership!
Thanks so much!”
So, it’s not a copy/paste response. Hoping to hear more soon!
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April 13, 2017 at 5:36 am #8068
Cristen
Participant@summoningdark my dream is that we get on the call and it’s just a chorus of “have you tried turning it off and on again?”
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April 13, 2017 at 1:19 pm #8190
SummoningDark
Participant@wanda102 I will gladly tell Stacey that she broke the internet.
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April 13, 2017 at 7:11 am #8073
Jeremy
ParticipantI got a reply of “… Keep in touch and we’ll get you registered soon.”
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April 13, 2017 at 7:14 am #8074
Megan
ParticipantWhen I was on break last night I emailed Stacey to ask a few follow up questions about the process, since I hadn’t really had a chance to talk to her much and was contacted out of the blue, rather than finding her website…I haven’t received any response to those questions…
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April 13, 2017 at 7:31 am #8077
David R.
ParticipantIn the interest of *attempting* to be Never Silent, I thought I’d share my response, too. As someone who got tumbleweeds from the Sinclairs (rightfully so), I thought it might also encourage those who haven’t seen much yet:
(note: In my initial message, I talked about the middle between personal life and business life, and how I would love to have someone in the middle to confide in.)
Hello there David,
“Thank you for your kind email. Ah yes and that middle is so important though isn’t it? I remember the times where that was missing in my life and you can’t compare my happiness then to now. It’s such a difference. Right now we just need a little more time to go over all of our emails and calling lists but be assured that no man or woman will be left behind. Expect to hear from us soon David!”
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April 13, 2017 at 7:52 am #8081
Lenize
ParticipantI got a really sweet reply!
Good morning Lenize,
thank you so much for your wonderful words. Don’t worry about where you live – to find a true companion it never matters how close or far you are. Your story really touched my heart Lenize and it pains me to know that so many people go through similar things every day, which is exactly why I founded this company. I can’t wait to help you on the road to a happier and more fulfilled life. We will be in touch again as we near registration.
Have a great day Lenize!
So I just sent her back:
Thank you for the sweet reply, I know you must be very busy, so I appreciate it.
I will wait to hear from you and wishing you well with the great task you have in running this wonderful company
Lenize
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April 13, 2017 at 7:57 am #8086
Anonymous
InactiveI completely agree that the ODSM created Stacey and iConfidant for the people who didn’t feel a connection with The System and Noah and Sarah. Stacey wrote back to me and I was just so happy! Her reply was:
“Dear Claire,
There is no such thing as being too late at iConfidant. There is room for everyone who is eligible. To me, you already seem like you are. And I know, LA is a tough city to find real friends. Ugh. But don’t worry. We are here to help! Stay tuned and await another email soon.
Nite,
Stacey”
Now I think the real reason this email connected with me is actually in the way she replied. I’ve been noticing the way she responds to everyone is a little bit different, almost somewhat mirroring how we speak.
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April 13, 2017 at 7:59 am #8088
Neil
ParticipantI sent my email. Got the “we are too busy and just a beta” response. That is okay. I have friends… right guys?
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April 13, 2017 at 8:18 am #8091
Brian E
ParticipantThis was my response, I think I got lucky with the timing, I was busy and stopped everything I was doing to send an email. Ah, The things we do for “Lust”…
Brian,
It is great to E-meet you.
Maybe tomorrow we could jump on a call?
Is there a number I could reach you on?
So, I responded call anytime after 10am. I also had my phone number attached to this email, but they did not call. So maybe they want to make sure people are around. I’ll follow up if I hear from Stacey today.
NeverSilent
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April 13, 2017 at 8:33 am #8093
Kristin
Participantto all my out of towners… there’s hope! ?
“Hello Kristin,
we would love to help you with what’s missing in your life. It’s tough out there to find true friends, especially when living a little further but we at iConfidant know no distance.
Expect another email from us soon Kristin.
Best,
Stacey”
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April 13, 2017 at 10:34 am #8133
Sean
ModeratorI actually hadn’t realized this until @clairebuch noticed “I’ve been noticing the way she responds to everyone is a little bit different, almost somewhat mirroring how we speak.”
Did some reviewing and she’s right, the mood seems to match the sender’s. I wrote mine while I was still at work so I was still in business-mode and hers was very much the same. Not NEARLY as warm and kind as the responses you all have been getting. See below for mine:
From: Sean
I am interested in registering, please consider me for placement within v1.4’s beta.With Regards,
Sean RichFrom: Stacey
Hello Sean,It is a pleasure to hear from you. Would you like to speak on the phone sometime tomorrow?
Maybe sometime after 1pm?
Do let me know.
Respectfully,
~SEOnly a few minutes later she’s warmly reacting to some others and outright flirting with others. The idea that this could be a mirror or shadow matching service is… interesting.
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April 13, 2017 at 10:44 am #8139
Melissa
ParticipantDadDude, my email to Stacey:Hello,
First and foremost, very interesting concept! BFF by survey—color me intrigued. 🙂 I’m a married lady and plan to stay that way but I’m always open to meeting new people that have the same interests. I do understand that your beta stage is at capacity? If so, no worries, perhaps if there is a vacancy consider my name in the wait list?
Best,
MelissaStacey’s response:
Melissa,
First and foremost, thank you for the compliment Melissa 🙂 and secondly, we are absolutely not looking to break up any marriages!! We support love & friendship equally. I’m sure we can find you a perfect – strictly platonic – friend. Yes we are indeed swamped at the moment but not to worry, I will be in touch as soon as we near registration.
Nite,
Stacey
The “first and foremost”, the smiley emoji, the four letter goodbye at the end???
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April 13, 2017 at 12:07 pm #8163
Tiffany
ParticipantWell, I e-mailed Stacey last night and am eagerly awaiting a reply. I am really excited about a potential direction that does not involve Noah (no offense to the followers, he’s simply not my cup of tea). I’ve been excited about Lust for months now, waiting for a window of opportunity to jump in and get involved. This feels like something I could really be into. I guess we shall see how it all plays out. Good luck to all the other hopefuls out there looking for their companion 🙂
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April 13, 2017 at 12:12 pm #8164
Nosnevets
ParticipantWhy are we not asking the important questions here?
I want to know about Stacey’s MOM.
I heard she’s got it going on.
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April 13, 2017 at 12:13 pm #8166
Tim Redman
ParticipantAnother email exchange to dissect.
Subject: Re: I need better friends.
Though people are all around me, I feel like I’m walking the Earth alone. I don’t need pity. I just need somebody who understands. I have endless empathy – even for most cats.
Tim
From: Stacey Erikson <registration@iconfidant.net>
Date: April 12, 2017 at 11:35:52 PM PDT
To: Tim Redman
Subject: Re: I need better friends.Tim – you are such a poetic dude I love it. And I can assure you, you are not walking this Earth alone. Just wait until we contact you again and iConfidant will find you someone who understands.
Best,
Stacey
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April 13, 2017 at 12:24 pm #8169
Taylor Winters
ParticipantPiggybacking on what @clairebuch was noticing, I found it very interesting that she referred to me as Dr. Winters from the start. Not Taylor, not Mr. Winters, which are what I usually get. She went straight for a sign of respect that she knew would resonate with me and get me to like her right away.
She’s clever. I’m keeping note of that.
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April 13, 2017 at 12:27 pm #8170
Addison
ParticipantInteresting article that just came out about AI and how it becomes biased based on input, similar to the idea of a possibly AI Stacey mirroring the way we’re speaking – http://www.theverge.com/2017/4/13/15287678/machine-learning-language-processing-artificial-intelligence-race-gender-bias
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April 13, 2017 at 12:28 pm #8171
Anonymous
InactiveShe’s on to all of us for sure, but oddly I’m more than ok with it. But yea, seeing all of the newer responses it is really clear that she is trying to hook all of us by mirroring our email energies if you will.
It’s much like what they teach you in different sales seminars when they literally tell you to physically mirror the other person with our own body language to match theirs. A tactic that totally works and mostly goes unnoticed.
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April 13, 2017 at 12:35 pm #8173
Chris
ParticipantI completely agree this is what’s happening, @mkarrett’s reply is by far the most damning. But then I have to wonder: if Stacey is an AI and not a physical person needing to type out replies to her “311” emails, then why did some of us get copy and paste responses? I know that my inquiry was honest, introspective, and detailed, and I sent it at 5pm yesterday, yet I received the same kiss off reply as many others. How is the Stacey AI determining who is or is not worth its time, when theoretically a personalized response should require no effort at all.
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April 13, 2017 at 12:41 pm #8176
Sean
Moderator@macbethinabathtub – Perhaps it’s an AI that has a boilerplate response for when it hasn’t received enough data on the person yet. It can respond to others because it’s gathered enough to know how they sound but it defaults back to a copy/pasted response for those that it’s still gathering on.
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April 13, 2017 at 12:41 pm #8178
Russell
ParticipantSo, @anakindrew, I am in agreement with what you said earlier about this being almost a “shadow” approach to stuff we have seen so far and like I said in an earlier post, this is such a logical way of gathering intimate information on anyone participating in the Iconfidant program.
I did get a response. It is brief, but I think it does fall into the concept (I think @thegilded is the one who mentioned it recently) that the response is written with similar tone to the message / voice we display in our initial emails. Interesting idea.
I got no concrete info, but Stacey did make mention of a specific point I made in their attempts to distance themselves from the “dating site” concept. She also did make reference to me being “registered” in the future.
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April 13, 2017 at 1:24 pm #8191
Cristen
Participant@summoningdark “Flash flash flash….doubleflash!”
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April 13, 2017 at 1:40 pm #8195
SummoningDark
Participant@wanda102 now I’m imagining my iconfidant as Richmond and am suddenly more invested in this.
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April 13, 2017 at 1:41 pm #8197
Cristen
Participant@summoningdark you just spend long hours together, staring off into the Void. ?
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April 13, 2017 at 1:49 pm #8198
SummoningDark
Participant@wanda102 He really would be the ideal companion.
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April 13, 2017 at 2:15 pm #8202
LaSalle
ParticipantI received a response! For those of you who know about my struggles/angst/desperation with respect to Noah, this has been a triumph. It’s still more or less a stay tuned email, but I think a response at all is amazeballs. So ready for you to break me, Stacey.
Dear La Salle,
Of course you can call me Stacey!! And I smiled so much reading your email. I love people who are honest and speak right from the heart. I agree with you too – a partner shouldn’t and CAN’T be everything. And to expect that is madness. Which is why a confidant, a companion is so important and can actually help your relationship get even better. You seem great and I am already looking forward to see where iConfidant will take you. Stay tuned for more emails soon!
Nite for now,
Stacey
I agree with what everyone has been saying about her being a shadow of The System. I feel like Noah would laugh us out of a room for trying to speak from the heart.
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April 14, 2017 at 2:21 pm #8628
Blondie
ParticipantSo… I was very hesitant about contacting iConfidant, for several reasons. But I decided to bite the bullet and wrote a very personal and heartfelt e-mail that I will admit broke me a little.
Today, I received the following response:
Dear Vicki,
thank you so much for your open and honest email. I absolutely loved reading your words and I can relate on so many levels. I think my eyes started leaking a bit too reading this…But here’s the good news „blondie“ – we at iConfidant are determined to help you. It doesn’t matter if you don’t know exactly what it is you are looking for..in fact to be honest with you I don’t think that many people ever truly know what they want or don’t want. But iConfidant will find it out for you. Please expect to hear from us again very soon.
Thank you and kind regards,
StaceyShe’s a good egg, that Stacey…
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April 14, 2017 at 9:30 pm #8737
Brad Ruwe
ParticipantI think with this, the big question is are we strong enough to go for the sobering truth over the comforting lie? I’ll say, that is one amazing sounding lie.
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April 14, 2017 at 11:04 pm #8749
Alecia Steiner
ParticipantI tried to post earlier, but it didn’t post. I am so excited that I finally got a reply from Stacey! I really thought that I wouldn’t get a response since I’m not very active on the boards due to work, school, kids, etc… Although it was a “we’ll be in touch” at least it was something!
Response:
Stacey Erikson
8:19 PM
Hi Alecia,Thank you for your interest. Yes energy can be a powerful thing .. Well we are working through a lot of applications right now but will get back to you as soon as we reach our next phase! It shouldn’t be too long!
Keep your head up
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April 14, 2017 at 11:43 pm #8755
Thy
ParticipantI got the following message this morning:
Aren’t we all wanting to find a best friend, Thy? You are in safe hands with us and we will get back to you as soon as we can. Stay tuned and keep following us on social media!
Stacey
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April 17, 2017 at 5:34 pm #9127
Maranda
ParticipantJust posted to the iConfidant fb page:
“We are so impressed and happy with the response we have been getting for iConfidant’s Beta launch. Please be patient while we do our due diligence on your submissions and we will reach out soon. Lots of love from the entire team here at iConfidant.”
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April 17, 2017 at 11:08 pm #9208
Anonymous
InactiveI’m late to the party, but here’s my exchange with Stacey…
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Me:
Stacey,
It seems you have a lot to offer the world. New relationships and deeper trust with iConfidant. Greater happiness and fulfillment. Oh, and also your hypnotic eyes…
You’re getting a huge influx of responses, and it must be a lot to take on, so let me ask: what can I do for you, Stacey?
I’ll be around. Probably.
Chad
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Stacey’s response:
Chad,
Thank you for your interest and thank you for the wonderful compliment. Hmmm as to what you can do for me, Chad? I don’t know..I’ll have to think about that one for a bit. But it never hurts to just give it a try and do SOMETHING, you know?
I hope you will Chad.
Stacey
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Now I guess I’ll need to come up with some grand gesture, hmm?
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April 18, 2017 at 12:14 am #9212
Taylor Winters
Participant@chadeschman, send her a box of her favorite chocolates. Maybe send a bouquet of her favorite flowers. Invite her out to her favorite restaurant. Make her a mix tape of music that remind you of her. Write her a poem or sing a song to her as loud as you can in the middle of your office. Make a scavenger hunt across LA, ending at the place where you first saw her hypnotic eyes.
The possibilities are endless!
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April 18, 2017 at 12:43 am #9217
Lawrence Meyers
ParticipantWhat’s this about mirroring what people say? That’s empathy, of course. It also brings to mind the myth of Narcissus and Echo.
http://myths.e2bn.org/mythsandlegends/userstory948-story-of-echo-and-narcissus.html
The best relationships are when both people are “Echoes”, listening and empathizing with each other.
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April 18, 2017 at 6:49 am #9218
Cristen
Participant@larry for me it also brings to mind the “Midnight” episode of Doctor Who. The Doctor genuinely loses a battle with a creature that succeds in mimicking him and then predicting him so accurately that his peers stop believing him, the smartest person in the room, and try to destroy him.
Was just discussing how much I loved this one the other day. It really does fit, forums.
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April 18, 2017 at 7:22 am #9219
LaSalle
Participant@wanda102, you’re so right! That’s pretty terrifying actually. The creature steals his voice and eggs all the passengers on to throw him out. It was so alarming because he was left looking like the creature’s shadow and was helpless to defend himself. The grossest part of that for me was when after everything comes to light, one of the biggest antagonists says something along the lines of “I said it was her (the creature)!” They’re so divided that they can’t even own up to the mistake of nearly killing the Doctor and instead continue to cling onto some empty need to appear right.
That’s a dark future I’m very much hoping to avoid. *looks nervously over her shoulder*
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April 18, 2017 at 8:14 am #9223
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April 18, 2017 at 8:19 am #9224
Megan
ParticipantI don’t think I’ve seen that episode…and it was from back when I actually watched that show.
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April 18, 2017 at 8:48 am #9226
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April 18, 2017 at 9:08 am #9227
Maranda
ParticipantOh man, Midnight was such a great episode. Not ever seeing the entity made it all the more terrifying.
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April 18, 2017 at 9:11 am #9228
Anonymous
InactiveA clip for reference.
Suck it Moffat. Davies created a monster 10x cooler and we never even see it. Nor does it fuck up the continuity of the show (Looking at you Angels/Silence).
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April 18, 2017 at 9:34 am #9231
Brad Ruwe
ParticipantWelp, looks like it’s time to rewatch some Doctor Who! That would be absolutely terrifying if we got a companion and it started doing that!
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April 18, 2017 at 9:52 am #9233
Cristen
ParticipantPro tip: one of @thebuz’a defining characteristics is his deep, vocal disappointment in Steven Moffat.
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April 18, 2017 at 9:57 am #9234
LaSalle
ParticipantI personally really enjoy the Angels and River Song arcs. Please don’t hit me with the ban hammer @thebuz.
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April 18, 2017 at 9:59 am #9235
Anonymous
InactiveAngels in New York is one of the shows worst episodes and it brings me nothing but joy that it’s the Ponds last episode. They go out with a fucking wimper and it makes me cackle.
I’m a Donna or Bust kind of fella.
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April 18, 2017 at 10:01 am #9236
Anonymous
InactiveI agree with @thebuz. Angels in New York sucked. The plot holes wound me.
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April 18, 2017 at 10:02 am #9237
Mustafa Said
ParticipantLoved River Song and Martha Jones myself. Wasn’t too fond of Clara.
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April 18, 2017 at 10:02 am #9238
Anonymous
InactiveMoffat should just stick to Sherlock.
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April 18, 2017 at 10:22 am #9242
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April 18, 2017 at 10:24 am #9244
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April 18, 2017 at 10:32 am #9246
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April 18, 2017 at 10:53 am #9249
Twan Intarathuch
Participant@wanda102 @thebuz
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April 18, 2017 at 11:01 am #9251
Anonymous
Inactive@taysavestheday these are awesome ideas, but I was thinking maybe something like this…
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April 18, 2017 at 11:03 am #9252
Taylor Winters
ParticipantOh my @chadeschman! Maybe I need to take dating advice from you. Poor Stacey never stood a chance!
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April 18, 2017 at 11:12 am #9254
Anonymous
InactiveHaha, @taysavestheday I’ll have to start a new business. But the first consultation will be complimentary for all Lust forum members.
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April 18, 2017 at 11:13 am #9255
Anonymous
Inactive@wanda102 I love River Song, just wish she had more chemistry with Matt Smith.
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April 18, 2017 at 11:24 am #9257
LaSalle
Participant@wanda102 @thebuz @genghistwan
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April 18, 2017 at 11:34 am #9259
Anonymous
InactiveAwww you made me look so tall, @lasalle.
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April 18, 2017 at 12:13 pm #9269
Lawrence Meyers
Participant@wanda102 I’ve been catching up on DOCTOR WHO with my elder daughter and we’ve been watching the seasons all out of order. So of course you mention an episode from season 4 — the one season we haven’t seen yet.
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April 18, 2017 at 12:18 pm #9270
Hannah Schenck
ParticipantGuess I should jump on this Doctor Who train ??♀️??
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April 18, 2017 at 12:44 pm #9277
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April 18, 2017 at 1:33 pm #9307
Lawrence Meyers
ParticipantUmm….I’m a big Matt Smith/Amy Pond fan so…
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April 18, 2017 at 1:40 pm #9311
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April 18, 2017 at 1:44 pm #9314
Lawrence Meyers
Participanthaha. I happened to love what Moffat did with Smith. I think it was MOffat’s best storytelling and all three years had a lot of heart. Tennant is fine, but somehow his interpretation of The Doctor lacks something for me. Kind of bland, although I know others adore him.
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April 18, 2017 at 1:49 pm #9316
Anonymous
Inactive@larry Your hot take makes sense for someone who doesn’t watch the show in story order. You’d be far more forgiving of Moffats terrible long form story arcs that way.
Also come talk to me about Tennant when you’ve watched Series 4.
Also also, you’re wrong.
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April 18, 2017 at 5:38 pm #9430
superstar
ParticipantI’m pretty sure this is a coincidence/OOG, but, hey… “The Works” (the company at which SE “launched her career”) actually exists: The Works Consulting
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April 18, 2017 at 5:41 pm #9432
Anonymous
Inactive@superstar Good eye! It’s coincidence for sure, the domain has been registered to the same owner since 2000.
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April 19, 2017 at 2:48 pm #9776
Mustafa Said
ParticipantGuessing this is where this is supposed to go.
Stacey emailed me back.
“Dear MuMu,
I hope you will experiment and who knows…maybe you will be extremely happy that you did. You will hear from us again asap.”
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April 19, 2017 at 3:06 pm #9778
Chris
ParticipantI got one too. She sent me the copy and paste form letter the first day the site went live, and I didn’t reply because I didn’t want to push. Today she sent me a reply that was unique and specific to what I said in my original inquiry. Anyone else a part of the second wave?
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April 19, 2017 at 3:12 pm #9787
Tiffany
ParticipantI got accepted! Her response was personalized, kind, and alluring. Probably haven’t been this excited about an acceptance letter since college. I can’t remember how to post GIFs on here, but if you can imagine Liz Lemon high-fiving a million angels, you know how I’m feeling right now 😀
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April 19, 2017 at 3:15 pm #9790
Miki M
ParticipantCount me among the wave two email responseeeeeees.
Weeeeeeee!
(She called me “harsh” due to what I sent in my email, but still stated that I would be hearing from them again soon.)
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April 19, 2017 at 4:02 pm #9831
Sean
ModeratorAlso I don’t know if iConfidant is gonna pair us up with other members but if so I call dibs on Tiffany. Just putting that out there.
Disagree with me and I’ll just delete your comment.
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April 19, 2017 at 4:31 pm #9836
Anonymous
InactiveDibs on @wanda102 – we’re going to give World’s Cutest Tag Team a run for their money. I’m practicing the YouPorn Plex right now!
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April 19, 2017 at 4:32 pm #9837
Sean
Moderator“YouPorn Plex” – Risky click of the day
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April 19, 2017 at 4:34 pm #9839
Brad Ruwe
ParticipantNooooooo way am I clicking that in these corporate offices.
*continues browsing forums with “lust” in the title*
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April 19, 2017 at 4:36 pm #9840
Anonymous
Inactive@thegilded Eyyyyyyy *fingerguns* (Sorry to make it boring with wrestling stuff, though.)
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April 19, 2017 at 4:40 pm #9844
Cristen
Participant@thegilded don’t worry it’s just a pro wrestler flipping another man by using his incredibly strong penis in a move literally sponsored by YouPorn. @kipsie and I are meant to be.
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April 19, 2017 at 5:17 pm #9856
Jackie
ParticipantThe Iconfidant story just isn’t in my cards right now I guess.
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April 19, 2017 at 5:29 pm #9860
Kortney
ParticipantWhile I was reading all of these I was gonna ask if anyone had gotten a response since the 14th but now I got my answer. I sent an email the 17th but haven’t gotten a response.
Glad to see this second wave (and with positive news) is happening
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April 20, 2017 at 9:33 am #9930
Maranda
ParticipantThis was posted to the iConfidant Facebook about an hour ago: “Scientists say that in a lifetime you go through 396 friends but only 36 last.”
Thoughts? Those are some rather specific numbers. Too many sig figs for a general claim, if you ask me, but otherwise generally true.
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April 20, 2017 at 9:40 am #9935
Candace
Participant@izryn like I said on the fb post itself, I have been through way more friends and the number that are still around are far less. (Except right now because of LUST my number of friends has sky-rocketed again).
EDIT: OK well, no, if I’m being honest with myself they are probably referring to REAL friends. I tend to use that term very loosely so maybe their definition is different than what I’m thinking.
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April 20, 2017 at 10:33 am #9942
Vox Chaotica
ParticipantI always found it difficult to contribute to any of these threads as I am constantly playing a game of catch-up, so I apologize if I do so incorrectly, but I sent an email at around midnight last night and have recently received a non-canned response from Stacey:
Hi [VOX CHAOTICA], thank you so much for your email. I am so sorry that you have been bullied and still are. There is no excuse for bullying ever and you must stand up for yourself.
I am certain we will find you a perfect confidant here. Will get back to you soon.
Stacey
If this is the incorrect formatting, I’ll re-arrange it – should I also post the email I initially sent as well? Stripped of a bit of my personal information, of course. Would images work better? I’m genuinely not entirely sure.
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April 20, 2017 at 10:45 am #9945
Candace
Participant@voxchaotica share whatever is comfortable for you. What you posted was enough for me to get the idea of your email to her. 🙂 thanks for sharing
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April 20, 2017 at 10:45 am #9946
Chris
ParticipantAll of that is great, @voxchaotica, you did it perfectly! It is entirely your call if you would like to share all, some of, or none of your original communication to Stacey. I personally chose not to, other people shared the whole thread, it all depends on what you’re comfortable with. @electrichippo has been having a fascinating and deep correspondence with Stacey and she’s been updating us periodically, but I would never expect her to share everything that happens because so much of it is personal, and we trust that she has the good judgement to share what she believes might have specific bearing on the larger story. When in doubt, follow your gut.
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April 20, 2017 at 12:51 pm #9960
Kortney
ParticipantGot my response earlier today!
(Yes that is my phone number at the top, please don’t send me nudes)Looks like more info is for sure coming out today
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April 20, 2017 at 12:57 pm #9964
superstar
Participant@izryn There’s something disturbing to me about the phrasing of today’s post (that we “go through 396 friends but only 36 last.”). Wouldn’t most say we “make friends” or “develop friendships” rather than “go through” them. As though IConfidant is implying that friendships are disposable commodities.
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April 20, 2017 at 1:06 pm #9966
Anonymous
Inactive@superstar Good point. The phrasing is off.
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April 20, 2017 at 1:24 pm #9967
Megan
ParticipantSo, I too have been exchanging emails with Stacey that I am hesitant to share, because they are deeply personal in nature and so far nothing in them feels relevant to the larger narrative. If for whatever reason that changes I will absolutely share.
One thing I have noticed though: she has responded to every email of mine except one – the one I sent after our phone conversation, in which I asked for clarification on certain things, including methods, and asking “are you really following me?” and other sorts of questions. That one went unanswered. Emails that showed vulnerability – all answered.
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April 20, 2017 at 2:51 pm #10030
Brad Ruwe
ParticipantWith all the talk on the Sinclairs right now, just want to point out iConfidant has made multiple posts today on their FB page. If one can tell the Sinclairs are up to something with silence on the forums, is the sign that iConfidant is about to do something a sudden surge in FB activity?
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April 20, 2017 at 2:54 pm #10031
Blondie
ParticipantI seriously hope this is the case. Several things that have happened today have left me feeling more in need of their services than ever…
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April 20, 2017 at 2:59 pm #10032
Nicole Mae
ParticipantI got an email from Stacey yesterday and a call from Kristen last week.
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April 20, 2017 at 3:04 pm #10035
Chloe
Participant@nothenrygale They were saying that some exciting news is going to come up soon. Maybe they’re going out of beta so everyone that wants to can join up now?
@coryphella Of course, share whenever you feel like you want/need to, especially if it’s personal.
I’m pretty sure Stacey is preying on people’s insecurities and vulnerabilities to get her data, or whatever it is she wants. She’s really comfortable to talk to, you feel like you can share anything with her, and she encourages you to. She offers an ear to talk to, no holdbacks, no repercussions. But anything questioning her methods, or giving out too much info on her and her company, and she suddenly clams up. I haven’t talked with her since the first email, and a few Facebook comments, but I’m looking forward to learning more about what exactly she’s up to. -
April 20, 2017 at 3:05 pm #10037
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April 20, 2017 at 4:02 pm #10062
Cristen
ParticipantIs it plausible that the 396/36 thing has to do with active users here? It seems like too many people to be the number of beta email applicants they received. That said, I could see it as a hint to the coming size of their test group. The numbers, like previously stated, seem too unique to be arbitrary.
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April 20, 2017 at 4:13 pm #10064
Kyle Bown
Participant@wanda102 It sppears to be based on an actual study done on MSN Messenger. The number I saw were 396 and 33. But I’m trying to find a good source for the actual study. Just finding other places citing it as well. Like here: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-202987/Friends-lifetime.html
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April 20, 2017 at 5:21 pm #10068
Cristen
Participant@bruinbown so I think the real question here is will the potential iConfidant meet ups also take place in 1999? ?
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April 24, 2017 at 5:53 pm #10761
Kortney
ParticipantPost from the Facebook Page – Article titled “The Importance of Friendship”
– Noted that they say virtual friendships are completely valid
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April 24, 2017 at 6:00 pm #10766
Kevin
Participant@kortneydarling The iConfidant page says that it isn’t a dating site and does emphasize that people will “embark on a friendship that transcends physical boundaries.”
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April 24, 2017 at 6:08 pm #10776
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April 24, 2017 at 6:41 pm #10791
scot
ParticipantI looked into some recent oog studies on that after iConfidant came on line. It’s really interesting what they found. “Real” friendships vs virtual ones. Virtual comes out pretty high as impacting people’s real lives in a positive manner. Especially when we take into consideration how we use social media to connect with the real people in our lives. The line gets fuzzy. I use myself as an example. In real life I live half way across the country away from all my family and any friends other than my wife and kids. I only connect with them electronically. There is only one person in this experience that I have ever met and “know” isn’t a bot (she’s really rough on herself but super sweet and I’m glad to know her) and yet I honestly value every interaction I have here.
So. A virtual friend that knows me and wants to share my bs?
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April 24, 2017 at 7:02 pm #10796
Megan
Participant@ziegenbartsr – I’ve been called lots of things, but I’m not sure sweet is one. 🙂
Lots of times in my life virtual friendships have become real friendships. I still have friends I met on Livejournal over ten years ago and of course the friends I met here. In these cases these are people I met in person. Even if that doesn’t happen though, what defines a friendship as “real?”
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April 24, 2017 at 7:08 pm #10798
Jackie
ParticipantI’ve met people from NeoPets, super back in the day. AIM, back when that was a thing. I met my current boyfriend off MySpace, back when that was the cat’s meow. And now with Facebook, I feel as if it’s a very fluid experience, meeting people in person then becoming Facebook buddies and vice versa.
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April 24, 2017 at 7:09 pm #10799
scot
Participant@coryphella This is my experience so I get to choose the adjectives. ?
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April 24, 2017 at 8:05 pm #10807
Kortney
ParticipantMy best friend (she’s 28) met a online friend on neopets when she was in elementary school and she’s going their wedding in Germany this year.
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April 26, 2017 at 11:49 am #11144
Chloe
ParticipantIConfidant just posted that there will be a new update very soon. Phone calls or emails on everybody’s survey questions maybe?
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April 26, 2017 at 11:53 am #11145
Brad Ruwe
ParticipantEither way I’m glad their tech issues are being handled! Though I am absolutely wary of the possible connection to The System still.
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July 21, 2017 at 11:09 pm #20056
Jess
ParticipantIs it too late to try and be a part of iConfident?
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July 21, 2017 at 11:15 pm #20059
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