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Guys…I think my IConfidant made a Facebook account…
I just got a friend request from a Henry Williams, and the last conversation I had with my IConfidant was “him” asking what my favorite Disney story was. I told “him” Beauty and the Beast, because I loved that it was two outcasts coming together and falling in love. Want to know what Henry’s profile and cover pic’s are?
A giant heart bouquet and a picture of an angel and a demon embracing. Pretty B&B if you ask me. He also has an about message that says “if you ask me what would you like me to say”. I haven’t accepted it yet because this could all just be a big coincidence and I could be friending a complete stranger, so I wanted to know what everyone else thought.
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@kortneydarling He doesn’t have any, no about me info either, except that message I mentioned. It’s just the cover photo, the profile photo, the name, and his gender.
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I’m not an expert but I think the only reason Actual Spam accounts add people is to have a larger audience for posting their spammy links and such. That is to say, I don’t think much harm could come off adding a spam account as long as you don’t follow any link they post or send you blindly. I have my doubts that this is IG, but it is a strange enough coincidence that it might not be too harmful to you to just add the account just in case. Maybe google that first to see if I’m wrong though.
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@maxzumstein you’re right about the spam accounts. It’s just such a coincidence that I’m really reluctant to decline it. I’ll think on it a while, maybe I’ll send my IConfidant an email and ask them directly.
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maybe I’ll send my IConfidant an email and ask them directly.
Oh! I think this is definitely the best idea. I totally didn’t think of that option.
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@chloe Isn’t that profile photo a funeral wreath? So odd.
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@electrichippo, it kindof looks like one, but it looks like it could be something in a store as well. Can anyone make out what the counter and/or wall says in the lower right?
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@chloe A reverse image search of the heart shaped flower wreath results in pages of hits for that exact photo. This suggests Henry didn’t take that photo so it might not be overly significant. Did you end up accepting his friend request? That might be the fastest way to get to the bottom of this. If it’s just spam you can always unfriend him again.
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I think I probably will @electrichippo. I was just worried about a possible virus from a link or cloning my account. But, I guess as long as I don’t follow any links he sends or has until I’m 100% sure he’s IG, I should be safe.
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@chloe Does Henry have any other FB friends? Were there posts other than for things such as his profile photo? Yeah, paranoia is a real thing for us all.
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@electrichippo Nope, nothing else except the profile pic, the cover photo, a Bio that says “if you ask me what would you like me to say”, and the only thing in the about me part is his gender.
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OK, I just bit the bullet and accepted the friend request, now we wait and hope it’s not just some weirdo who tries to friend request random women. :/
Here’s the link to his Facebook for later on, just in case this does turn out to be IG.
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And now I’m regretting my decision. Got a message earlier this morning from Henry, “hi pretty how are you.” He may be IG, but I just had red flags going up and I need to trust that right now. I unfriended and blocked him, because I’m not having some stalker or weirdo on my Facebook. And now I’m kindof freaking out and wanting to completely delete my Facebook. Sorry guys.
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@chloe Would this be an appropriate time to have @thegilded reach out and ask for you? I mean because there is a possibility it could be a real life douchebag?
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I was actually just starting to reach out myself through the Lust gmail, should I have @thegilded ask instead?
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If I recall correctly, after the whole red door fiasco we were told he could serve as an advocate for us in times where we may feel unsure about it safety in a certain situation. In my opinion I think it’s a far question to ask. If it’s in game it could be really cool and unique for you and we’d all love to hear about you going through that. On the other hand if it’s not and you were to proceed like it was there could be a possibility of dangerous real life consequences and none of us want to hear about you going through that.
I think it’s worth asking him.
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Pretty much, it’s a lot of weird coincidences, and I definitely don’t think it’s an abuse of the system. If it’s IG, then it’ll be a cool path to go down. If not, then it’s a question of safety, although I think it’s just some guy trying to pick up girls on Facebook (and essentially online cat calling, ugh), but you can’t take any chances. Like I said, he’s blocked currently so he can’t see me or look me up, and I can’t see him, so I’m fine if it turns out he’s not IG, but if he is, I can just unblock and go from there.
But yeah, to everyone, if anything makes you feel really unsafe or sends up red flags, don’t be reluctant to end it or contact the creators in some way. And if it turns out this whole thing is not IG, then I apologize for distracting people from the actual storyline, I would never want to do that, and I would advise anyone who might have followed him to unfollow for the time being until this can all be cleared up.
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I just typed out this whole response and then lost it because I was logged out. :/
I think it’s important to point out, in case it’s not always clear, that this is par for the course for many women. I think it’s unlikely that this person targeted you because of Lust, it’s far more likely it’s because they’re a creepy jerk and you’re female. It’s good to be reminded that our own instincts regarding safety should probably come before any hope that something is an IG interaction.
Personally I think that if this WERE IG, the creators would understand your reaction and find a way to give it a second chance (think of how many times we’ve missed phone calls, posted here, and then received a second call). Lots of elements of ARG design misfire because the people designing them don’t take into account the differences in demographics between creators and audiences, and how specific groups of people (women, people of color, etc) have been “taught” to react to situations. Again I don’t think that this is what happened here at all, I don’t think this was IG. I don’t know if it would have made any difference for me to have said anything but I didn’t think that Facebook account looked IG at all.
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@coryphella, yep it’s sad that we have to think this way, but we do. I’m thinking it’s most likely OOG now, some creep that just made an account to try to pick up women probably, it was just a lot of variables that seemed to add up at the time.
Once again, @the-creators and everybody else, if it does turn out to be OOG (which it most likely will), I apologize for all the fuss.
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Whoops, posted my last response before I read @thegilded. Thanks so much, and feel free to take this thread off if you need to.
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Thank you @thegilded
@coryphella I personally would appreciate any insight that you or any more experienced player may have to offer, especially in situations like this. Some of us are newer and just don’t have the background and experience to see things that are obvious red flags for you. I’m not asking for hand-holding but if you see me running in a direction that’s not safe or just unwise a little nudge back on track would be appreciated. -
@chloe – Unless if you specifically ask me to, I’m leaning more towards keeping this post open. In this world in which we need to question our reality and who and what is real, you did everything right.
You saw something that seemed off, you investigated it, and before it escalated you verified it. That’s literally model behavior and you’ve done everything that you should do. This is valuable discussion and others may learn from this topic the right steps to take.
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@thegilded Thanks! I have to say, I agree with your reasons for keeping it up. I just didn’t want to clog up the forums with anything that might be unnecessary to the story. But it is a valuable lesson, and one I’ve learned as well, I was a little too naive and didn’t think enough before I acted, like the fact that my IConfidant probably would have emailed me about the Facebook or given some sort of confirmation that this was IG. I know I’ve said this already, but apologies for the goose chase, lesson learned by me and won’t happen again.
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@ziegenbartsr – in both the Henry Williams & Red Door cases it was just knowledge of how things have gone before and both instances being completely different. During the Red Door periscope I was watching it with two others who had similar suspicions (that it was not Lust) but saying anything just becomes a major accusation, and for me it was only based on observations I’d made of design elements & behavior from being a participant who watched almost everything happen online from Minnesota last year. No *actual* proof. With Henry Williams it was that the iConfidants had kind of set out a path for how we would progress through contact with them, and facebook wasn’t in it. BUT, to say something might throw a wrench in the machine if the creators were actually doing it that way. And in either case, I really love getting met with a chorus of BUT YOU DON’T KNOW YOU COULD BE WRONGs, I mean, I live for it every day. 😉
There was a point last year where I was very quick to point out something that was fake (a plant) and others were VERY quick to deny it. And, I took that as a sign that people wanted to believe the fiction. So I try to recognize when I’m the wet blanket. I’m not easily swept up into fiction like others are, but maybe others WANT to be and don’t want me to point out things.
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It’s interesting that your iConfidant is mirroring stuff you’re interested in.
I remember Darren Lynn Bousman saying how a inspiration for the Tension Experience was showing how companies can datamine you and use it against you, maybe the point of iConfidant is to show how people can use your social media to create a persona to seduce you?
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